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Excitement Abounds on Move-In Day

University counselor – and college parent – shares insights on time of transition for app and parents

Posted in: Admissions, Homepage News, Uncategorized, University

A student pulls a large hot-pink suitcase.
Move-in Day marks the beginning of a new transition to independence for many college app.

While Move-in Day is an exciting one, it can also be a time of mixed emotions – especially for first-year app and their parents as they embark on their next chapter. app State University staff have been providing some advice to help create a smooth transition for both app and parents – particularly those leaving home for the first time.

As part of the University’s overall orientation this week, app Counseling and Psychological Services (CAPS) counselors have been leading sessions for app and their parents at Memorial Auditorium and University Hall, giving them an overview of the University’s resources and letting them know how CAPS can support app, says Sudha M. Wadhwani, a staff psychologist, who also happens to be a parent of two college app.

“We talk with parents about how we refer to their children – as app not as children – and we encourage them to guide and support their app but let their app take the lead in contacting professors, in reaching out to schedule appointments with advisors, with counseling services, with the Health Center,” Wadhwani says. “That process of ‘adulting’ in the real world starts now.”

For Wadhwani, Move-In Day and the orientations hit close to home, having  recently gone through this rite of passage with her own two children, a junior and a freshman, both of whom are attending college out of state, making her a newly minted empty nester. She admits to shedding some tears and showering her “dog baby” with lots of extra love as a result.

“This year feels very different when I do the parent orientations because I’m there myself. I can just go sit in the audience with them,” she jokes, adding, “I have much more empathy for parents. They’re excited and nervous for their children. They’re anxious. It’s hard to let go. As a parent myself, I feel all of those emotions. But if my student is doing well, then I’m doing well. If they’re happy, I’m happy. If they’re enjoying their experience, I’m happy for them.”

A woman and man shake hands over a rolled up foam mattress topper.
Parents introduce themselves during Move-In Day at app.

While app have likely “separated and individuated developmentally” over the years, “Now is the most profound transition” for both parents and their app, she says.

Wadhwani reminds parents that “From Day One, we’ve been working toward this moment, and now we hope that they have the skills and values that we have tried to instill in them.”

It’s all about “finding that balance of how much to support and guide your student and how much to let go and empower them to adult.”

Wadhwani urges app to set up check-in times with parents that don’t interfere with class or study time, to utilize app’s many resources and get involved in the many activities or clubs on campus. “Particularly if they are commuters to get involved, to not just come here and go to classes and then go home,” she says, noting that college life is not just “an extension of high school.”

A young woman smiles as she pushes a cart filled with personal belongings.
A student happily wheels her belongings toward her residence hall at app.

CAPS staff also inform parents of mental health resources — available for free to app. “I make clear that this is a stigma-free campus, and that we believe that seeking counseling and all of our other services is a healthy thing to do,” Wadhwani says. “We want them to know that their app are not alone.”

There’s no one-size-fits-all answer to dealing with the high school-to-college transition, Wadhwani says. “It varies depending on if your student is living on campus or commuting, based on cultural background, on each individual family’s needs and dynamics, as well as each student,” she says.“Each student has their level of readiness as well, depending on how the high school years have gone, depending on whether they may have mental health concerns, whether they may have a peer-support system or already have built certain skills.”

A woman takes a photo of a student and parent as they prepare to move into a dorm.
A family member captures the rite of passage that is Move-In Day on her phone.

Wadhwani says it’s important for parents to give their adult children “the opportunity to express and create their space and their story at this point in their journey.”

“We have so many opportunities for our app to develop in all areas of their identities, to get engaged and involved and become leaders,” she says. “We know that app who are engaged are likely to build greater confidence and skills, better manage their time and have stronger mental health and ultimately, do even better academically.”

A young man and his mother place his personal belongings into a bin.
A Red Hawk and his mother work together to move him onto campus.

More scenes from Move-In Day and Orientation

A student opens the door to her room while her mother looks at her phone.


A father helps transport a bin and bag full of supplies to the residence hall.


Two app in a room surrounded by their belongings.


A woman wearing a app "Mom" t-shirt smiles next to a row of residential supplies.


A young woman holding a pillow gives directions to another young woman and a parent.

[caption]The mascot Rocky high-fives app as they walk past him.


Students and parents check in with app staff at orientation.


A young man sets up his dorm room.


Story by Staff Writer Sylvia A. Martinez. Photos by University Photographer Mike Peters and John J. LaRosa.

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